Don't be a hater
Love is the answer
I used to be negative. I used to engage in negative conversations to point out other people's mistakes or flaws.
Not anymore.
The internet is full of haters ready to shit on anything. As soon as they notice something they dislike, they will share/retweet how others are wrong or how offended they are. Sometimes, such post goals virals and some people's lives may be affected (remember when an 18-year-old bought a Chinese dress in Salt Lake City and thousands of people told her she was racist?)
These people are not much different than your average Karen or Kevin from any American suburb. And when we engage in negative conversation (online gossip, unnecessary criticism, etc.), we are no better than them.
The worst part? We have nothing to win in engaging in negative conversations and thoughts.
We often shit on others because of how jealous we are. Instead of celebrating people, we shit on them to hide how much we envy them.
We could raise ourselves and others, but all we do is lower the bar for everybody.
We are not becoming better people.
It’s a losing game for everybody.
It took me some time to adapt.
Now, instead of pointing out meaningless flaws in others, I spend time on useful thoughts and ideas. And if I speak, I try to raise others and celebrate their victories. And if I am asked to provide feedback, I will try to do my best to do it in a way that empowers the other person.
The difference has been very positive from a personal and professional side. My brain is free of negative thoughts and ideas, and I feel more productive overall. The side effect is that I started to ignore some conversations: if I do not have something positive to say, I stop talking.